Don’t ever give up on life.
You might be in a very bad place in life right now. I get it. You may have lost your job or perhaps even a sibling. You may be going through the most disturbing storm ever as of now. There are a hundred things that could be going wrong right now in your life. Trust me, I do know.
But, please, don’t you ever dare give up on life. There is no struggle that you have to face that you can’t handle. You are strong enough. There is a reason. There is light at the end of the tunnel, however long the tunnel seems to be. There is life, and love, and bliss concealed somewhere in your destiny. Hold on. Please. I’m not saying you should get out of that seemingly endless loop of negativity straight away, put a smile on your face and everything is going to get better in the blink of an eye. You are allowed to go through ups and downs, shed a tear and be angry. Still, you can be hopeful. At some point, tables do turn.
Barely six months ago, I was living with my parents and sisters in two emergency hotel rooms after being evicted from our social housing. For four months, I felt like I was in hell despite the previous trials and tribulations I had although undergone in my life. At times, I feel like the pause button has been pressed, far away from the suffering and the problems, and soon enough I will be reminded of the struggles back home (in spite of finding some of them here too, meaning having no friends). But I do have to remind myself of the hardships of the last few months. I did go through it all and here I am right now. Wow. If you had told me a few months ago, back on July 27th, 2016, what would happen seven months later I never would’ve believed it. And yet, it did. Here I am in London, the city of my dreams. Despite the fact that I have not mastered my social skills and interactions yet, I still have met some incredibly amazing people. I have gotten into a positive routine, which includes meditation, that actually makes me go out and discover the city, even on my gloomiest days. I have learnt so many things, taken part in activities I never thought I’d experience in my lifetime. To a certain extent, I have become a new person.
It is very easy to fall into the temptation to believe that your life will remain miserable whatever you do but truth is it won’t unless you don’t take action. Besides, I do not want to say that simply getting into a positive mindset will set you free of all your troubles. You might get rid of some burdens somehow, visualization and positive affirmations may help you get through whatever struggle you’re battling at the moment but the unfavorable outer circumstances in your life might as well not vanish as easily. And yet, there is one thing that I know for sure. My father once taught me a very valuable lesson: we never, ever, know what the future holds. Be it at first perceived as positive or negative, we will never be able to grasp what comes next in life.
Isn’t that thrilling? To dive into the unknown, prepare oneself for the unthinkable.
As Stephen Hawking said: “While there is life, there is hope.” So please, do hold on that quote. Hold it close to your heart. When you wake up, utter those very words with faith. Be patient. Look deep down into your heart and find the one thing that keeps you going. Perhaps you don’t know what that is, but there is certainly something in there that gives you the strength to persevere. You would not be here otherwise. Remind yourself of that person, that passion, that purpose every time you find yourself on the edge of giving up, breaking down and feel like you will not succeed at getting back up. Because, yes, with the thing that has kept you strong all the while and on which you have knowingly or not relied on, you have the power to carry on. And you will.
And when the storm ends, remember to be grateful for the lessons. You made it. Cheers. Now, remember how it shaped you into the person you are today. Never forget.
Have you heard Nick Vujicic‘s story, the man who apprehends hope as the core value of life? As we are born and raised through difficulty, in his words, ‘without hope, we feel like, ‘why are we here?’. Can you relate to this? I do, and I’m sure you too. If you do need some more words of wisdom from him, I’ll leave you with the following quote and encourage you to watch his Ted Talk on Overcoming Hopelessness: “Even the worst part of my life can be turned into good.”